A Woman's Heart

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets." This was a quote taken from the one and only movie, Titanic.

If you are a woman, I am sure this movie is in your top five favorite movie list...am I right? Well, if it's not it is in mine and I will tell you why. The realness of the movie makes me feel an emotional connection to all of the people who suffered and who's lives were lost. The love story of Jack and Rose is timeless and so pure. And, most of all, the dialogue of this film simply tugs at my heart at all the right times.
The quote I stated above may be one of my favorites because of the simple fact that when it comes to these days, there are very few women of my generation who think of their own hearts as, quote, "A deep ocean of secrets." No, in fact they feel that their hearts are made to be put on display for everyone else in the world to know. It saddens me that most of us have all come to the point where there is nothing we won't keep to ourselves. Most days I will get on my Facebook to read my fellow "friend's" posts, and half of the time I end up shaking my head and even feel embarressed at some of the things I read. It seems like the most reoccurring post I see are words of a girls who just broke up with her boyfriend for the hundredth time. "He is such a jerk, he cheats, he is not a real man, I GIVE UP ON EVERYTHING!" My favorites would have to be the quotes from heartbreak songs and at the end are always a couple ...'s. LADIES, why, might I ask you, would you want all of your seven hundred friends to read this? Do you want them to feel sorry for you? This entire obsession with documenting such personal and raw feelings just astonishes me. My mom was always first to set an example of how certain things should be between you and the other person, not for the rest of the world. Even knowing this, I have struggled with this myself for a while. I began purposely make a point to show off, if you will, Chris and I's love. I began to document and talk about how great our love story is and would say certain things that would put our love on somewhat of a petastool. I have finally come to the realization of my actions and try to keep our love between us. I would have to say that we are an extremely lucky couple and very much in love, but there is no need to show this off to the world in that way. Love is the only thing that matters in life and it is not something you show off like it's a new car. It should be kept between you and the other person and should be cherished. Always.
Now, by telling all of you this, I am truly hoping that something will click. I know we all live in a very public world and there are so many examples out there of people telling and showing all, but that does not mean that we have to. We are not on reality shows, thank God, right? And there is no real reason to act like it. What I am trying to say ya'll is this, keep private things private! I can not stress this enough. When you are not obsessing over what is happening on Facebook or Twitter, or what your next post will be, you will find that there is less drama and stress in your life. You will find that important things in your life seem to become even more special when hundreds of others don't know or have given their input on it. Be like Rose in Titanic, ya'll. Just think, she went her whole life knowing the extraordinary love of Jack and had to endure losing him so tradgically. The most incredible part was that she never told a soul about it until she was over a hundred years old! If that is not amazing, I don't know what is. If it were up to me, I would hope all women would be more like Rose and I would tell them to keep what's in your heart, in your heart. It is, after all, a deep ocean of secrets...and we should always think of it that way.